We all have a dream that we deeply desire in our heart.
It might be to become a doctor, lawyer, or even a non-conventional profession that allows you to make a steady paycheck doing what you love. This dream doesn’t have to be career driven. Maybe your wish is to find your soulmate; someone who can love you just the way you are. Or to have a baby and experience being a parent for the first time.
The truth is we all have something we passionately want to experience and have it become part of our life, but the idea of it coming true it feels like an unattainable dream.
Sometimes to even think about it seems silly. It triggers all kinds of doubt and negative emotions. The lack of support, the inability of others to understand and constant criticism (especially self-inflicted) only creates more insecurities in our mind along with lingering questions.
How can a dream like this possibility come true? How do I make myself ok with taking the constant sacrifices to get the end result? What if I invest my time, effort and nothing comes out of it? Will I get hurt? Am I worthy of it? Most importantly how to I keep motivating myself every day so my determination and perseverance does not wavier and cause me to give up?
I believe these questions exist because they trigger our flight or fight nervous system response. All our mind understands is this thought scares us or has the potential to cause us pain. As a result, it creates a reflexive response to protect which causes the “dream ending” questions to arise. To subside these self-doubts, we need to focus on the answers. If you make the answer too “realistic”, because you can’t put any more effort or don’t want to get hurt, then your motivation to move forward slowly gets crushed. Each day it becomes tougher and tougher and failure seems inevitable.
Instead of focusing on answers that take you closer to failure, just remember the reasons why you wanted this dream to come true in the first place. Use that to answer the self-doubting questions. It might be hard to believe but only YOU have the ability to crush your dream. Only you can tell yourself to stop or keep going – not others or circumstances.
When you give up on a true heartfelt desire that wanting never fully go away.
Every day feels like you are “simmering in your own shit”. Yes….I know….that’s a TERRIBLE visual, but you know it’s true. It stinks! You can’t hide it – even from yourself. Now ask yourself would you rather wake up every day in that stink or would you rather wake up each day with
Every day feels like you are “simmering in your own shit”. Yes….I know….that’s a TERRIBLE visual, but you know it’s true. It stinks! You can’t hide it – even from yourself. Now ask yourself would you rather wake up every day in that stink or would you rather wake up each day with hope of potential achievement – no matter how dim or distance. Besides no one ever wants to look back in time and think, “I wish I had held on a little longer”.
I know you want to keep moving forward so let’s make this as simple as possible by focusing on today! Don’t obsess over yesterday’s results or plan intensely on what’s coming tomorrow, days, weeks or months from now. We can’t change the past or predict the future. We only have control of the present.
So focus on today and ask yourself, “How do I want to complete this day?”
Do you want to take action that brings you one step closer to your dream or would you rather give up and letting it disappear?
You always knew it wasn’t meant to be easy and there was potential to get hurt. That was never the reason that kept your from taking the first step towards to your dream so now why are you allowing that to be your last step?